Corrugated Love

by Bo Sebastian

Everyone has their ideal for love. We tend to move toward it as in a dream, never looking back. The little girl folds pictures of her wedding day into an album. A young man neatly tucks away images of baby and momma in his heart like nesting file folders on a laptop. Partners think of the day they’ll have that home together tucked away in the woods with the 1.5 animals.

We are humans meant to come together. No matter how calloused we become about relationships, there is a part of our souls that long for the happy ending, to be swept away by love in its greatest form.

Is it wrong? I’m asked, time and time again, to feel this way. Absolutely not. My question, though, is have you allowed your vision of love to be corrugated (contracted into wrinkles and folds)? Is it time to bring the old vision out and take a good look at it in the realistic light of today.

Is your dream a possibility for you now? Are your fantasies about love realistic? I those are fair questions to ask yourself.

Most of us haven’t seen a model relationship in our lives that mirrors the “Leave it to Beaver” relationship of the Cleavers, yet somewhere in our subconsciouses, we think it exists. Is it fair to allow the illusions of television and movies to obstruct the vision or our lives?

I have lived in relationship where we never fought. Then one day the relationship just ended. I’ve had relationships where we fought a lot and the relationship still ended. But I’m not ready to stop dreaming that a partnership exists in between– where there is a perfect balance of love and respect, truth and communication.

The most important aspect though of this ironed out, uncorrugated dream is that two people have to be on the same path together, perhaps a spiritual path, that meets in the middle, ready to move ahead even if there is a bump or two in the road. When that exists, a real relationship will occur. I’m assured of that.

Our Affirmation: “Spirit God, allow my heart to be open to love today, of all forms. Let me dream again. Let me take out that old fantasy, dust it off, and rewrite it with confidence that you will bring about the perfect person for me. I know you are the giver of all gifts. You said, “Ask and you shall receive.” Together, everyone who is reading this and who is asking, we are all doing so with one voice. And so it is!”